People talk about their weaknesses a whole lot more than they talk about their strengths. So it stands to reason that they’d talk more about their failures than their successes. Especially as they get older and their mortality comes more clearly into view and their relationship and other failures over the years take on much more significance, relevance, importance.
This, no doubt, is impacted by our view of self. Especially if that view tends to be more negative than positive and sees the glass as half empty, rather than half full compounding our failure to keep the two great commandments; love God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind and love your neighbors as yourself.
Our failures are also magnified by the fact that we’re made in God’s image. God made Adam and Eve in their image which means for one thing that they are triune beings. God exists in three persons, God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. Adam and Eve each existed as spirit, soul and body. However, they were warned not to eat the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for if they did, they would surely die. When they took that rebellious bite, Adam and Eve died spiritually becoming just body and soul, and their primary focus, their bodies. Life after that was experienced through their 5 senses-feelings and minds-beliefs. Only after being born again do our spirits come fully alive as we are filled with God the Spirit who gives us a hunger and thirst for the things of God.
So naturally, as we approach the end of our lives, those of us who are alive spiritually will naturally focus on Whose we are and who’s with us and those who are body and soul on the things they haven’t done and won’t be able to do. One group’s focus is on relational things while the other’s more about physical things. Consequently our lives and our focus take on a whole new level of urgency and importance. Perhaps man’s coming to grips with what he’s done and hasn’t done with his life. The results, peace, knowing you gave it your best shot; or, regrets, trying to control uncontrollable past mistakes. The logic, 3 is always better than 2, no matter how you bite the apple.